The guidance I have received of “if you are not contributing love to it, you shouldn't put energy into it” can be challenging for me at times. They mean everything! In this fear-riddled world, with the media, the chaos, the intensity, sometimes love is challenging to offer.

Don’t be diminished by those around

Start by not diminishing others around you. Even if they are engaging in the shame, blame and judgment as a way to motivate you, don’t play. Go beyond those techniques of manipulation and control and start lifting yourself and other’s up.

If you struggle to do this, that is okay. Start somewhere. Notice that by just setting the mention to drop the need to be right all of the time, shifts your relationships and your life.

Overall, this book has a gentle and pushy side all at once. Asking you to embrace yourself as a woman. She even addresses women who decide for themselves to be women and weren’t born in this gender. It offers simple, direct advice on how to shift your perspective and own your energy and power.

Emotions are seemingly the easiest things to share amongst friends; it's almost like a virus. One person feels happy and passes it on to the next and the next and so on. That is ideal... but not always how it goes.

More often, one person in line is angry and yelling at the cashier which puts you in a "what is wrong with people?" mood. This, in turn, may lead to you going home and yelling at your kids, which makes them mad at each other and so on. Emotions are contagious and the sooner we learn to recognize the difference between our emotions and the people we are with, the easier time we will have in knowing ourselves.

“I am worried about you.”

Kids, our friends, or family are all potential targets for our worry. We use it to express love and consideration. However, when you worry about someone, you are energetically saying "I don't trust you to be okay". Psychically you are sending them concerns about who, what, where, how they are. This psychic projection drops their energy down, potentially propelling them further into the issues they are in.

Good energy hygiene is key to protecting yourself from negative, harmful energies of the world. Working with your subtle energy fields every day can boost your immune system, strengthen your relationships and enhance your daily life. Here are a couple of tips on clearing out your energy, that you can do all on your own, in a matter of minutes.

What are you giving someone else with expectations that they will do something in return? Try asking yourself, “Am I willing to give this, even if they don’t do anything with it?” Try giving things without expectations of anything in return. No strings attached.

Become aware of how often your motives for doing something for someone else, is for something in return. See if you can just give this week without expecting anything back.

In return, when things feel good to give, give more of it and say “Yes, thank you, more please” to the things that you are given and feel good to receive.

How can you manifest what you are worth if you don't know what you are worth and you aren't facing what is blocking you from that knowledge. Self worth is a great place to start in figuring out how you are blocked to manifesting what you want. 

For the most part people don’t see you, they see their idea of you, through their own filters of what they are. It is important to remember this when taking feedback from other’s or allowing other people to be the directors of your inner story.

On the flip side, it is also important for you to remember you do it too. Take ownership of your projections as your own inner truth and you have a whole new way of working with subconscious mind. Working with the subconscious mind, helps you see how your reality is being shaped by beliefs that you have, that you don’t even know you are manifesting from.

As far as I can tell, low self-esteem is a real epidemic. People are running around feeling bad about themselves or pretending to be better than others, or both. It causes problems in relationships, anxiety disorders, the inability to make decisions or achieve goals. It brings people to act smug to each other, keep secrets and hold grudges.

Why are we feeling so terrible about ourselves? Don't we all deserve to feel good about ourselves, no matter what anyone else is doing? Let's tackle those insecurities! This is part of that awesome shadow work we could all benefit from doing more of.

Did you know I published a book?