The Symptoms of Being an Unhealed Empath
If you are an empath, you are highly attuned to and sensitive to the emotions of others. You might often feel what others are feeling as if they were your own emotions. Some empaths are so sensitive and unhealed that they have completely shut themselves off from knowing that this is what they are doing, which may make them come across as hardened or cold.
People who feel the need to use a lot of external signals to create space, such as tattoos, dark clothing, tough looking facades, are often very sensitive empaths who have not discovered any other way to protect themselves.
This ability to deeply understand and connect with others' emotions can be a source of great strength and compassion. However, it can also be a challenge, as you can easily become overwhelmed by the emotions of others.
What makes an empath?
There are many different theories about what makes someone an empath. Some believe that it is a genetic trait, while others believe that it is something that can be developed over time. There is also some scientific evidence to suggest that empaths have a heightened sensitivity to the neurotransmitter norepinephrine, which is associated with empathy.
Regardless of the cause, certain characteristics are common among empaths. These characteristics include:
High sensitivity to emotions: Healed empaths are often able to feel the emotions of others even when they are not explicitly expressed. Unhealed empaths might feel the emotions of others as their own or make inaccurate assumptions about what the other person may be feeling.
Strong intuition: Healed empaths often have a strong intuition about people and situations. Unhealed empaths are often second-guessing themselves or making decisions based on what someone else wants.
Compassion and understanding: Healed empaths are often very compassionate people who can understand the pain and suffering of others. Unhealed empaths might become cold and judgmental because they can’t handle the way it feels to be around people’s suffering.
Sensitivity to the environment: Healed empaths may be sensitive to their environment. Unhealed empaths are easily overwhelmed by crowds, loud noises, or strong smells.
Check your symptoms. Are you Healed or Unhealed?
Unhealed empaths might have the following symptoms:
Emotional Overload and Overwhelm
Difficulty Setting Boundaries
Attracting Emotional Vampires or Takers
Struggling with Your Identity
Experience headaches, fatigue, anxiety, depression, or even physical ailments that can’t be explained by medical science
Isolation and Misunderstanding
Difficulty Making Decisions
Difficulty Saying No
Susceptibility to Manipulation
Difficulty Balancing Empathy with Self-Care
Empaths need to recognize these challenges and develop strategies to manage their sensitivity and protect their well-being.
Becoming a Healed Empath
I am not going to lie to you, this part is work. But the first step is to begin by setting an intention to know yourself better. Learn the mechanics of grounding and protecting your energy field. Establish an energy practice that feels good to you such as yoga, meditation, breath work, using crystals, or essential oils.
I have many resources on my site, as well as classes that can help you get started. Below are some next steps you might explore.
Take a Class
Read a book such as:
Try a Crystal
Application: Sound healing and meditation, prayer, buddhist, yoga, stress reduction, balancing body chakra, adjusting our emotional state and so on
"I am grounded in my consciousness of peace and tranquility."
This combination of stones is an excellent protector against negative emotions that can become pent up inside of you. It enhances your consciousness and provides a grounded sense of self. May help lower blood pressure too.
“I forgive myself and others and allow the real me to shine through. I am unconditional love.”
A good crystal for reconciliation. Helps soften the heart energy, accept the situation at hand, and allow the authentic energies of self through. Helps reinforce love in all places, including sex, self, work, and life.
Jewelry for crystal and gemstone lovers. All jewelry is handmade by Scott McNeely.
“I commit to myself, as I ground into the things I choose to be focused on.”
It helps with resilience by strengthening your inner resolve and promoting self-discipline. Its grounding energy helps you remain focused and determined in adversity. Use it to harness stability and vitality.
"I can control my cravings and allow myself to be clear."
Amethyst is great for a lot of things. Addresses the third eye chakra and helps clear other stones. It is good for deeper levels of meditation and higher states of consciousness. Balance practical and spiritual.
"I allow my shadow energy to balance and dance with my light so that I may experience wholeness."
Includes 6 tumbled Quartz and 6 Tumbled Obsidian and 1 citrine point. The felt grid not included but may be available for purchase.
"I align to what I am worth and receive the abundance with ease."
Citrine attracts wealth, prosperity, and success. It imparts joy, wonder, delight, and enthusiasm. Raises self-esteem and self-confidence. Because it helps you with play and confidence it is an excellent crystal to improve your relationships and your sex life.
"I work with the mysteries of earth and sacred geometry to bring magic into my life and intentions."
Clear Quartz "Vogels" lovingly, insistently clarify your true intents, needs, and desires and help you to act upon them gracefully, repetitively until you are clearly co-creating your true life
"I welcome dreams, but not destructive illusions. I work with my vision to create new adventures."
Helps clear congested energy and can also clear other stones. It can be used in rituals and on grids to keep energy clear and flowing.
"I am able to see my dark side and work with it to evolve and grow.”
Good for protection and clearing negativity. Helpful when doing shadow work or to clear the aura of negative projections or thinking.
This pendant contains a variety of stones, created by the Stone Listeners at Ahhh~Muse to support the immune system.
Anatase: I root your body so thoroughly that you come home to yourself, now.
Pietersite: I reflect to you the alchemy of pure synchronicity!
Desert Snow Quartz: Here is magic catalyzing your entire being: Grab it. Love it. Breathe it into grandeur.
Rose Quartz: Trust. Everything you love and need finds its way to you in the perfect now.
"I activate my inner magic."
Psilomelane aka Merlinite is a magical stone that is well known & used by shamans, alchemists & other workers of magic. It is a strong spiritual stone of duality. It balances the light and shadow sides of yourself and all the polarized sides of yourself that need adjusting.
"I begin to allow myself to see more than what is in my current reality with curiosity."
Good for beginners, trying to open up their third eye. It calms your energy and soothe you enough so you can begin to see your inner truth and open up to things beyond what you can see. Helps detoxify and cleanse your awareness and bring in more communication with your higher self.
“I have all the strength and energy I need to get through what I am going through.”
Titanium supports strength, mental clarity, and fortitude. Combined with the activating and enhancing energies of quartz it helped amp up your energy and increase your ability to pay attention to what you need to. It is good for anyone feeling like they are lacking energy and need help centering and energizing.
"I open myself up to joy and communicate that joy in my life."
This stone helps with spiritual development, finding your joy, and aligning with your highest good. It is especially good for people who want to be heard for what they know including teachers, writers, and public speakers. Because of its robust nature, you can cleanse topaz with water, salt, moonlight, etc. Sunlight might cause the color to dull a bit.
Crystals:
6 Nuummite Tumbles (smaller dark stones)
6 Shungite Tumbles
1 Rose Quartz Point
Uses for Crystals:
Shungite is an excellent psychic and EMF protector. I assist to cleanse and align your energies and release dysfunctional patterns. Because it releases heavy energies you will feel energized using this stone.
Nuummite is a very magical stone used to reverse curses, psychic attacks, and negativity. It releases negativity from past lives and past agreements that are no longer serving you. Because of its cleansing powers it opens you up for spiritual growth and manifestation.
Rose Quartz is your amplifier for the grid. It will amplify the other stones and help you remember to love yourself unconditionally and allow compassion and heart-centered energies to emanate from you and your space.
Set up:
Create a sacred space that your grid can sit on for a while, perhaps even days, undisturbed. You can use any grid format you would like. The one pictured is using the flower of life, sacred geometry, shape. You can find many sacred grid shapes on the internet or you can create your own. Your intentions are what sets this up the best.
Place the Shungite on the outside of the grid, sealing in protection so that you can do your deep work. Then place the Nuummite in the second layer to enhance the protective and cleansing qualities. Finally, place the Rose Quartz in the center to activate the grid.
Take Down and Cleansing the Crystals:
Most crystals need a break from their work, as we all do. A good rule of thumb is to cleanse after any big event happens in relation to the grid or once every new moon. The stones in this grid can be cleansed with running warm water over them and leaving them in the moonlight overnight or the sunlight for two hours.
Box to store grid, Aligning with the Elemtals CD, and instructions included.
"I am balanced in body, mind, and spirit."
This is a must have stone for anyone who is sensitive. It is great for protecting you from EMFs and energetic disturbances. Shungite helps balance out any disturbances in energy, therefore can be beneficial for pain, stress and anything that might have you off balance. This stone may also help with detoxification.
“My mind is clear and I calmly and easily make decisions.”
Agate may help enhance mental function, improve concentration, enhance perception and analytical abilities. It is a soothing and calming gemstone that helps release anxiety, anger and agitation. It may also assist in strengthening relationships by instilling a sense of security and safety.
Agate is a crystal good for asking for what you want, which can assist in all areas of your life including your career, sex, boundaries, etc.
“I synchronize with my inner truth to increase my understanding of myself and life.”
This stone can be helpful to open up your intuition in regards to the self. May help with memory and clarity in the next steps. It can also help you remember forgotten skills, including skills from previous lifetimes.
Call upon your dragon’s magic in order for you to see clearly what you need to see. Ask them for assistance. They can help you with anything earth related including your relationship with time.
"I unlock the gift of my emotions and find healthy vulnerability."
This stone may help pull out all the suppressed feelings we hold so dear to us. The relaxing vibrations that emanate may assist one in dropping that guard around suppressed emotions and releasing them. It also holds space for you to express uncomfortable emotions and shows you how resilient you are.
Put the Platonic Solids in your crystal healing grid to clear the chakras and activate your connection to your multidimensional self. You can place them on or near the body chakra for alignment or use individually for meditation or activation assistance by holding them in your hand or placing in your space.
Rose Quartz Crystals say:
“I forgive myself and others and allow the real me to shine through. I am unconditional love.”
A good crystal for reconciliation. Helps soften the heart energy, accept the situation at hand, and allow the authentic energies of self through. Helps reinforce love in all places, including sex, self, work, and life.
“My life’s joy is enhanced as I find compassion for myself.”
Green Tourmaline will attune you to the vibration of Mother Gaia, blended with quartz amplifies it all. It resonates within the higher heart chakra which strongly promotes compassion, particularly towards yourself. They are powerful healing crystals for you to use, as it has a gift that helps the heart to make an electromagnetic connection with the earth itself. This may also help to improve the health of the physical heart.
“I remember who I am as a cosmic being and attune my energies to that magic.”
Awakens your exceptional qualities and the ability to rise from within and begin to shine. As a cosmic being you will remember your true interstellar powers and begin to notice your increased decision making abilities.
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Libyan Desert Glass, also known as Libyan Gold Tektite or Great Sand Sea Glass, is a unique and nearly pure silica tektite believed to have been created from a meteorite impact 26 million years ago (although this is highly debated due to no evidence of a physical impact).
"I hold space for myself to have a deep cleanse of my gifts."
A major energy amplifier, Rutilated Quartz is a common stone to include in healing grids, enhance your therapeutic session, and keep around as a basic helper. The stone can help anchoring you to the earth, bring in ethereal energy to flood the system and balance all chakra centers. Good for people who need help integrating their spiritual self into their bodies.
"My ancestors and family do not determine my health. I am the most healthy version of my genetic line yet."
Seraphinite may help release the belief systems or patterns that result in the manifestation of the same physical diseases or illnesses suffered by you and your family members. Choose a different outcome and focus on breaking the pattern. Seraphinite reminds you to take the appropriate action to ward off diseases that are normally considered hereditary. Given it helps with releasing the past, it also might help with releasing weight and old scars.
“I allow my perception to magnify the positive and neutralize the negative.”
Titanium Rainbow Obsidian provides a balancing and protective energy to those who work with it, helping to clear voids or blockages in the mind, heart, and spirit. This combo helps magnifies the positive and dissolves the negative. This stone can help ground you in times of distress and see the changes that are happening around you for the best of all involved.
"I ground into my original blueprint across all dimensions."
This stone grounds you in all directions of time and space. It provides you a connection with your essential energies. This helps with motivation, confidence, and emotional support.