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Communication Issues

Communication is often the root of our problems with others. We may misunderstand what someone says, or they may misunderstand us. This can lead to conflict and resentment.

But what about the way we communicate with ourselves? Do we always listen to our own thoughts, feelings, and needs? Or do we often ignore or deny them?

When we don't communicate effectively with ourselves, it can lead to problems in all areas of our lives. We may make poor decisions, feel stressed or anxious, or have difficulty achieving our goals.

Communication with Yourself

Our mind and consciousness is always chattering away. But have you ever stopped to notice the listener inside you that is listening to that chatter. Yep, that version of you is in there. Whether you are chattering away about yourself or someone else, you are the one listening.

Are you thinking in away that will manifest what you want out of life or are you just narrating what is already going on that isn’t? What ever you are saying to yourself will be reflected in your relationships around you. Choose wisely.

a few tips for improving communication with yourself:

  • Take some time each day to simply listen to yourself. What are your thoughts and feelings? What do you need? What are you asking yourself for?

  • Ask your body for information. Sometimes we store our unspoken thoughts in our physical form

  • Check in with your emotions. They are often a good gauge of how kind or unkind you are being to yourself.

  • Don't judge yourself. Just accept whatever comes up.

  • Talk to yourself as you would talk to a friend. Be kind, compassionate, and understanding.

  • Be patient. It takes time to develop good communication skills, even with yourself.

Improving communication with yourself is an important step in creating a more fulfilling life. When you can listen to your own needs and take care of yourself, you're better able to connect with others and create positive relationships.

Don’t Ignore Yourself

Often times our problems also arise when we ignore our own communication. We ignore our own bodies, emotions, thoughts, etc. We might try and change them or we misinterpret them.

For example, do I really want to go out to dinner with that person or do I just feel obligated to? Another example would be when we try and change our physical body and it backfires. Let's say we try and fix a problem by getting really healthy, which seems to cause more health issues.

Well, maybe your body learned that the only way you would listen is if it was causing problems. Sometimes we have to take ourselves off of auto pilot and work on our communication issues with our bodies.

Accept Yourself

Stop and listen to yourself. Really listen. What are you trying to tell yourself that you are trying to dismiss or deny? Maybe it is that aching thought that keeps coming up about something you think it is just a silly thought and you keep putting it off.

Sit with that thought and feel it with complete awareness. Acceptance and curiosity can be useful tools to really let this communication start to flow. Check in with any miscommunications you might be having with yourself.

Don’t Force Yourself to be Something Your Not

Are you pushing too hard on changing something about yourself that is causing other parts to dig it's heels in on? Are you expecting too much? Are you limiting yourself, by expecting too little?

Authenticity is key here. It is a good time for you try and let the real you out, into the world. The world needs your perspective and your gifts. The energy center to check into first is the fifth chakra.

The Fifth Chakra

The fifth chakra governs communication. This is communication with others, ourselves, our spirit guides. It also governs the communication loop, the receiver of the communication and the giver of the communication. When your fifth chakra is off, it is likely there are communication gaps in various areas of your life.

So often our differences with other people stems from communication issues. Someone said something they didn't mean, we thought someone said something mean, we don't mean what we say. So many issues arise in that fifth chakra and relationships! If you want to know more about this chakra, visit my blog on the throat chakra.


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